Have you ever had one of those moments where you just pause and feel blessed? Truly blessed? Like, your heart is so full, it could explode? Those are my Sunday nights.
Every week in my house, the world stops for a few hours, and my family (as much family as everyone’s schedule will allow) get together to eat, catch up on our lives, drink.. Eat and drink more (we’re Italian – what do you expect?). And then, when everyone’s stuffed and drunk, we play ridiculous games and laugh until we cry. Ya know, it wasn’t until this weekend that I realized we never even leave the table (other then to take turns putting on episodes of BubbleGuppies for the babies.. Which btw if you drink enough wine at dinner, the episodes become quite entrancing – but anyways..)
Let me tell you what kind of family I have..
They’re the kind of family that when you get dumped on New Year’s Eve, they cancel all of their plans, no questions asked, and show up at your house to eat mac&cheese and hotdogs with you.
That is real, unconditional love.
Love, real love – is unconditional. That is love in it’s most beautiful form. Watching my family love each other in this way, makes me feel so warm inside. You look around at everyone at the table, and you know their positives – but, also you know their faults, their pain, their struggle, even their demons.. And you take all of that info, and you love. You love anyway. You love because no matter what it is that, that person says or does, it won’t change the fact that you love them. It’s the getting up in the middle of the night, shirt off your back, last dollar in your pocket kind of love- and it’s beautiful.
Now in your lifetime, if you’re lucky enough, you’ll find ONE person that will love you this way. For me, it’s my family – but for you, maybe it’s your best friend – and if you’ve settled down by now, I can only hope you’ve found this in a significant other.
On the flip side, perhaps you’ve landed yourself in some sort of “conditional love” situation – which has you worried that every time you can’t come through on something, or unveil a flaw, the other person is gonna bail. Well, can I be honest with you? That’s not love. Love is NEVER conditional. Not real love, for another person. It does not depend on what you can do for someone, how many times you call them, or how well you’re behaved.
I am not one to quote the bible (in fact if I had never been to a wedding or two – I wouldn’t even know this verse existed..), but more truer words were never spoken: Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance … love will last forever.
And, listen – I’m not saying that you don’t reserve the right to revolk your love – there are some circumstances that may present themselves, and at the end of the day – you have to LOVE YOURSELF first. That is the biggest example of unconditional love you can exhibit. Forgive yourself. Accept your faults. Work out your demons. When you’re able to do this for yourself – it opens you up to accept more of it from others. Cheers!